Those who have the potential of earning large amounts of money also seem to have everything in place almost as if by magic. For example, they have immediate or extended family living with them or close by to look in on or care for the kids. Otherwise they seem to have some live-in maid from some village far away who has no qualms in moving around the country with the family.
The rest of us seem to just have to manage and struggle somehow or give up all hopes of adding to the income. Typically I belong to this second group. For the longest time I have been battling with the idea of getting back to work. The biggest factor that holds me back is my 4 year old. Her school is only till 12pm. After which I have to figure out a way of taking care of her. My husband works nights. If we have to make it work, it is going to cut it real fine, timing-wise. That means any traffic delays or last minute meetings are really going to cause havoc. The tension itself is a killer.
I am really coming up against the wall on this one. Any suggestions are welcome. The biggest hurdle at this point is the summer vacations. I cannot expect Neha to manage in the daycare for a whole day all of a sudden. It is going to be very cruel on her. Of course, I can’t just take up any job after having worked in some very prestigious companies for 10 years. My ego won’t allow it. I recently interviewed at a company who were looking at some middle management positions. Despite reading my profile, the lady asked if I would be interested in taking up a consultant position (starting level in their organisation) because they were struggling to get people at that level. Needless to say, I have not joined them. I spent 10 years climbing up the ladder. I do not see any reason to step down now.
In some countries, there are so many part-time positions that mothers with young children can consider. When will India come around?
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For someone who TRIES to manage it all, work & family (and even school at a time), I tend to disagree a bit with your thoughts. Sorry :)
It is not true that people with lots of money will have their immediate or extended family near by. Money cannot buy everything, right? Yes, of course, money can definitely get you a maid.
I think your daughter is old enough to go to a daycare. At 4, she is able to communicate to you all her needs. You should start trying to put her in a day care and see how she responds. Who knows, she may like spending time with kids of her age. Personally, I feel it will help kids to become a little bit more independent. Try it for a few weeks and if she is adjusted to the day care, start looking for a job that you like.
As far as the job goes, its up to you to take the position that you would like. If you are not satisfied with the position the company is offering, don't take it, just because you need to find a job. Unless you are happy with the job, there is no way you could give your 100% to the job.
Having said that my personal belief is that if you are good at what you do, and if the company is great too, they will recognize your potential and reward you for whatever your worth.
I am not familiar with the current India work place. Flexible timings and part time jobs are common outside of India. I would think that culture will catch up in India, if not already present, soon due to the presence of many MNC's in India.
Good Luck with everything!
Was going thru Nancy's blog roll(which is where I found you), and found an interesting post from Preethi. Something you could relate to. Click on the link below to read the post.
Preeti's post
Hey Hm thanks for the kind words. My thoughts were based on several (and I mean several) families living near me. My in-laws stay 25 kms away from me. Staying in that area is not an option.
Yes Neha will go to daycare. But I will have to bide my time bcos summer vacations are on which means 2 months of full time daycare. The daycares here are very unprofessional. So the lesser time she spends there, the better. At most times they just resort to plonking kids in front of the TV for the kids. But there is a necessity to get back to work. ASAP. So my mind is really tormented about this whole issue.
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